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Looking for relatives of James Edward Mayfield, given up for adoption...?
He was given up for adoption in 1939 in Alabama or Mississippi USA to a couple in Louisiana. His birth mother was 16 at the time. I'm looking for any of his brothers, sisters, nieces, nephews, ANY relatives.

I found my sister, who was given up for adoption, but I don't like her as a person. What should I do?
I found my sister that was given up for adoption. I have 2 sisters that were given up so this was round 2 At first we talked on the phone a few times a week but that only lasted a couple months because I honestly do not like her character. She seems like she is lying about many things. Her stories sound like something out of a movie, not real life. She talks about drinking and always being drunk constantly and all the stupid things she is ALWAYS doing but then in the same breath tries to tell me what a good mother she is. Her brother who was also adopted by her parents just got out of prison with multiple felony convictions and that's her new babysitter and her boyfriend is also a convicted felon who got out of prison a few months ago. I was really excited about finding her but now I don't want to meet her or even talk on the phone anymore. I was not raised like that and I don't want those influences around my children. I don't know how to handle the situation. Any thoughts on how to handle it would be greatly appreciated. Thanks Also I didn't have a stable upbringing either I just had a wonderful grandmother who made sure I didn't lie or cheat. My mother was an abusive, drug addict and I lived with her most of my life. My " new sister" doesn't really want to know me, it seems like, she only wants to know about our mother. My mother has been a homeless, drug addicted, mental case for the last ten years and doesn't talk to anyone in the family. My sister doesn't believe me, or at least she doesn't believe it as bad as I say it is.

How Do I go about looking for my husbands baby sister that was given up for adoption at 8 y.o.?

My sister was given up for adoption 20 yrs ago. We met and fell in love with eachother. Can we marry??
Yes, we are technically related. But we did not grow up together and have two separate families. We are no doubt in love with eachother. Are there any laws against this?

My brother that was given up for adoption, how do I talk to him?
My mom gave up my Brother for adoption when he was born, after that I only saw him twice. Now he found me on myspace hes a year younger than me and we have so much in common, its just hard for him to say I'm his real sister. I don't know how to talk to him about this, my mom couldn't afford to keep him and then the reason he's mad is because after she gave him up, she had my little sister but no one would adopt her because of her problems so my mom kept her and not him. When he was little he would try to always go home with us and we got along so well but now I can't help but get upset when he tells people that I'm just an acquaintance. I'm 16 and he's 15. I can't imagine how hard it is for him, but I don't think he understands that I couldn't change it. He got adopted by very wealthy people and we couldn't give him all the things that they do, I know that doesn't matter but me and my other siblings envy that while he envy's us and our closeness. Its so hard on all of us to see him unhappy because of the past.He live's in New Jersy on the beach and I live in maryland. We can't exactly see eachother at all but I try to keep in touch.

Adoption question - if a foreigner baby is found abandoned on the streets of UK and given up for adoption what?
will be the rules for adopting it? will it be any different from rules governing normal adoption? since there is no way of knowing if the baby belongs to illegal immigrants, how is its nationality determined? i have a school project on adoption and this question just popped up into my head.Lol Tolerant. i'm a citizen here. don't worry...no baby is going to be abandoned by me. this is really a project paper research. now i think i'll add this lil tit bit of suspicion u portrayed on here in the 'sources'.

My son was given up for adoption and has found me he is a adult now. how do i deal with his jealous mother.?
I was molested at age 11 a baby came from this, my son found me 4 years ago. we have developed a good relationship because i do not blame him. He is a sweet guy,but now i deal with his adopted mother who seems jealous. She fills his head in order to keep us distant. i know it is hard for him to be in the middle because he calls me mom and we do care and love each other as mother and son. He lives far from me but we still try to keep peace. I was looking for ideas on how to deal with his mother. I have been ignoring her. though i do understand her intimidation.I do feel there enough love to go around. maybe she is a insecure person and never connected all these years with my son. I say this because once you raise a child and they love you and you love them, that parent should feel confident that this child will always return and love you. i have dealt with enough the man who molested me was my mothers husband and she chose him over me. I am a strong women now and have fought allot of demons i do not and will not fight more demons today. yet this is my son ans he wants a relationship as i do, his mother makes it hard for us.

Can a child given up for adoption sue his birth parents for past child support?

How can I find a sibling who was given up for adoption in 1968?
How can I find a sibling that's like 20 years older than me?? I only know what his first name could possibly be, and nothing else.....

Sibling given up for adoption at birth how to find them.?
my sibling was given up for adoption at birth, i only know first and middle name. is there any way i can find them, i live in the UK.please help.thanks

Should I look from my son I gave up for adoption back in the 70"s?
I was 19, not married, and it wasn't my parent's mistake. I did what I felt in my heart was right. I gave him a chance for a good like that at that time I couldn't have given him. He is 34 this year. Born in 2 13 1973. I feel like I need to find him for nothing else than to let him know about some family health issues that could affect him. Like a family history of cardiac problem that includes grandparents and mother. I sometimes wonder how he's doing. Then there's that little voice in the back of my head saying " Maybe he doens't want to know you" That's ok too.

If your mother had a child that she gave up for adoption, would you want to know?
About ten years ago, I met my birthmother. I already had a mom and was not looking for a replacement, just a missing piece of the puzzle. I flew to her home, spent the night and left the next day. We had a great time, and had a lot in common, including our looks. We looked like twins, which was very freaky.I found out that she had never told a soul about me, including her husband and 2 daughters, so I was surprised when she invited one of them my half sister to have dinner with us just to get to know her . I don't think there is anyway that she would not have noticed our resemblance, so I was relieved that she was sick. I would have been very uncomfortable being introduced as a friend.After I got home, she never called me, and only answered my call once. It was disappointing, but like I said, I wasn't looking for a mom. I would have liked a few more questions answered though. It's 12 years later, and both of my parents have died. I'm not a fan of facebook, but I recently found both of them there. Both my daughter and I have little extended family and it would be nice to at least know my half sisters. However, I don't think I should send them a friend request saying " Hi, sis " So my questions is, if it were you, would you want to know? Why or why not? Thanks for your time.I don't remember ever not knowing that I was adopted. My birthmother Kathy was only 15, so my maternal grandfather had to sign the adoption papers. I was adopted as a newborn, and Mom told me that he came to see me when I was about six months old. She was so scared that he would take me that she locked the doors behind him, but he said " I just wanted to hold her" . I was sad to find out that he had died a few years before I met her, and I did think that if I hadn't waited, I could have met him. I told Kathy that story, and she said that no one in their family knew about it .I was raised by great parents, but one of the things that was hard and this is quite common is that there was never anyone who looked like me, or had mannerisms,etc like me.My daughter is sixteen now, and it was obvious from a young age that she was " hard wired" like me. I have noticed that this is just second nature for most people, but I had never know anyone that looked or acted like me. The oldeSorry. I guess I did something wrong and cut off the last part. Anyway my daughter has had countless " family tree" assignments in school and every time I go to the doctor, they just tear up the medical history form in frustration. I was extremely careful to be discrete in contacting Kathy, making sure that she was alone and could talk openly, and I have respected her decision to not pursue a relationship. However, my half sisters are grown women now, and if they are anything like me, they would not want anyone making that decision for them, even if it was their mother.I appreciate your time, and would be interested in what other people would say, even if they don't want to respond online.Thanks again.

How could a person find a child they gave up for adoption at birth?
I have a friend who had a baby many years ago and had to give it up for adoption when it was born. This person had to do this for reasons beyond her control. Now she is grown and wants desperately to be able to find this child of hers and be able to meet it. Has anyone ever done this or have any advice for finding this child of hers?

Should a parent attempt to make contact with a biological child they gave up for adoption?
There are alot of moral and legal issues with this situation but let's say, in this instance, the parent felt no choice in giving parental rights and consent to adoption. When is the best time, if any, to attempt contact? Anyone ever experience either side of the spectrum such as the parent, child or adoptive parents?